I know this is a long post, but one I feel is the most important that I’ve put up. If you have any teenagers or even pre-teens in the house you know that staying ahead of the tech curve can be like a chess match. I have one teenager, but the younger one is the one that scares me when it comes to the internet. He is very curious when it comes to the internet. While I don’t think he would do anything inadvertently to harm himself, the fact that he even knows how to set up a username and password on sites like Club Penguin sends shivers up and down my spine. This is one of the reasons we all use the same email address. Some families set up separate emails for everyone in the family, I feel that we don’t have anything to hide, so we use the same. This is the way I found that my young hacker signed up for said Club Penguin. It’s not a bad site for kids, but I don’t want it to become training ground for My Space and Bebo (notice I am not linking to these sites!). I’m not being naive, if he can figure out how to set up a username, I’m sure he can figure out how to set up an online email account.
In a recent survey by Pew Internet & American Life Project, shows that on social networking sites, most teenagers are taking steps to protect themselves, which is good news. However, there are a lot of potential risks that parents need to know. Such as: 43% of teens that use social networking sites have been contacted by a stranger. 31% of users have “friends” on their site that they have never met in person. 55% have set up a profile online. Of those, 46% contain some sort of false information about themselves, which can be accessed by anyone online. Think about that for just a second … Get this, 91% of teens use social networking sites as a way to stay in touch with one another … they are not using email! This is how they know what the hot clothes to wear to school, which party to go to, etc … etc … Here are some more disturbing facts in this report:
• Eighty-two percent of teens who have created profiles have included their first names. Seventy-nine percent have included photos of themselves, and 66 percent have included photos of their friends. Sixty-one percent have included the name of their city or town, while 49 percent have included the name of their school.
• Forty percent have included their instant-message screen name. Forty percent have streamed audio to their profile, and 39 percent have linked to their blog.
• Twenty-nine percent have included their e-mail address, and 29 percent have included their last name.
• Twenty-nine percent have included videos, while 2 percent have included their cell phone numbers.
• Six percent of online teens and 11 percent of profiling teens have posted their first and last names on public profiles.
• Three percent of online teens and 5 percent of profiling teens have disclosed their full names, photos of themselves and the town where they live in public profiles.
That’s why, Parents, this is like a chess game. Your job is to stay a few steps ahead, figure out their moves before they think of them. As the title says … the end game is Checkmate! So, here are a few thoughts, suggestions and links to help you. The easiest thing to do is put your computer in a public area. If your kids, have a computer in their room, make sure it’s pointing outward so anyone can see the monitor. Also, make sure that the history files doesn’t erase after the browser is closed. That way, you can track movements by looking at the history file.
Start using Firefox. Why? well for one thing, it is the safest way to browse. Secondly, with all of the additions, you can customize your browsing experience and add a layer of protection for you and your family. In addition to Firefox, you can use family safe browsers for the kids, specifically those under 12. A few examples are Kidzui or Glubble.
Once you have Firefox set up, here are some extensions you can use for safe browsing:
- ProCon and Greasemonkey are two of my favorite profanity filters. These sites will block any profanity on the site with a “***”. ProCon will even direct the browser to another site of your choice. Very nice!!
- Another add on through Firefox is BlockSite. This add-on allows censorship ability to your browser. If you put a site on the blacklist, it will never come up. As with ProCon, you can also redirect to another site. So, what sites do you block? easy Google “social networking” sites to find out the most popular and add them to the list. That way, even if your teen or pre-teen doesn’t know about it, add it!! they soon will. Remember, you want to stay a few steps ahead of them!!
- Read. There are a few good parent forums that will help us band together. A few are: Blogsafety, Web Aware and Safekids.
- For instant messaging, I suggest IM Safer. Just make sure you download it on all the computers in the household, not just one.
- If you plan to continue to use IE, that’s fine, but use the Content Advisor in your internet options.
Lastly, and this one sounds so obvious, but its needed to be said and that is … talk to your kids about their online activities. This type of education starts at home, don’t leave it to the playground or classroom. If you pay the internet bill, then you set the ground rules for usage.
