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Ok, I admit it. I’m a touchy feely guy. While you may think this goes against an earlier post, it really doesn’t. I enjoy meeting new people. When shaking hands, I often grip my non-shaking hand to the shoulder, elbow or even the double cover handshake. However, more often than not, I hug. Not strangers mind you, but people I know. Some still feel this is awkward, I don’t. Men especially feel this way. It’s not about being a metrosexual or whatever, it’s just a sign of affection to someone I care about. So for those that are still confused, I give you the steps to a great “Man Hug”. Enjoy …

         When to hug

This is entirely down to what you feel comfortable with. When greeting family members, or a good friend you haven’t seen for a while, a hug almost certainly required. Congratulating a guy on getting engaged, becoming a father or even securing a promotion, a hug will be in order. If celebrating a win for your favorite team, you will find that suddenly worrying about hugging is no longer an issue. Anything goes.

 

The approach

When going for a hug, make it clear what you are doing. You won’t want to catch the huggee off guard. Start by spreading your hands wide with your right hand about 20 inches higher than the left. Lean back ever so slightly, this is a non threatening stance, making it clear you are not about to attack. Tilt your head to the left - this lets your huggee know where you are going so they can do the opposite, others wise there may be an embarrassing collision.

 

Embrace

 

 

Step in towards your compadre. Your right hand will go over their shoulder, with your head going to the left of theirs. Show your sincerity by gripping them firmly in your arms - there is nothing worse than a floppy, half heart attempt. Keep your head level and facing forwards. Looking down, or turning towards your hugee may end up as inappropriate nuzzling. Hold the embrace for as long as you feel comfortable, a second or two will do

 

The pat

 

 

This is the crucial part of a man hug, separating it from a traditional cuddle. With your left hand pat, tap or even smack your buddy 3 or 4 times on the back. This demonstrates you are still men - you maybe be affectionate but you can still dish out some pain. If you still feel this is too effeminate for you then give a light, double punch instead of a pat.

The break

 

 

While you are giving the final pat, break. Lift your hands smartly away, don’t slide them over your buddy in a lingering manner. This may confuse them, and you. Alternatively you could finish by gripping your friends firmly on the upper arms and saying something celebratory. ‘Well Done Eric”, “Congratulations”, or “Great to see you again” are all good. This makes for a clear and understandably reason for the hug and finishes it succinctly. Now return to whatever you were doing before the hug. Don’t feel the need to cough, avoid eye contract, or scratch yourself. You are still firmly a man - but one who is not afraid of showing their emotions. Mission accomplished.